The Home Group
BECOMING PART OF
It is the common experience for many of us to feel like we didn't
fit in anywhere. Drugs gave us that instantaneous feeling of
belonging. When we get sober, that drug-induced feeling of belonging
disappears. Finding a group of sober people we can relate to is a
new start for us. We go to meetings as often as possible, preferably
every day.
Before long, we find we are most comfortable at one particular
meeting. Because we feel "at home" there, we join the home group and
commit to attending regularly. Other home group members get to know
who we are, and we get to know them. We never have to be alone
again. On a bad day, we find there is usually someone there who
understands and who can help us get through it sober.
THE HOME GROUP
As newcomers, we hear the suggestion to get a "Home Group," but we
aren't sure why. Many of us have been in isolation for the last
months or years of our using. We feel apart from society and need to
connect with people who understand. We find those people at meetings
of Cocaine Anonymous.
TEMPORARY SPONSORSHIP
Since our home group gets to know us quite well, they can sometimes
act as our sponsor at the beginning of our recovery until we get one
of our own. They give us suggestions and listen to our troubles.
They explain what the steps are for and may even get us started on
the work. They give us hope to continue on our journey.
A POWER GREATER THAN OURSELVES
Sometimes it is difficult to develop a concept of a Power greater
than ourselves. Our drugs had been such a power, but what could be
greater than that? As we begin to work a program of recovery, we
learn that we are defenseless against our addiction. We need a Power
greater than ourselves, greater than our addiction. There may be no
better place to start than with a group of sober addicts. Our own
concept of a Higher Power will come in time as we work the Twelve
Steps. Until then, it is good to have the power of the group with
us.
TWELVE STEP WORK / SERVICE
We often wonder how we can carry the message to the addict who still
suffers before we get through working all of the steps. The answer
is service. Wasn't it important to us to have someone at the door to
welcome us? Was there coffee made? Did someone take the time to
greet us? Were there chairs set up? Who read the readings at the
beginning of the meeting? Was there someone to empty the ashtrays?
We can find a way to help no matter how long we have been sober. We
are told that getting out of ourselves is one of the best things for
us for us to do, and serving our home group is a wonderful way to
start.
RESPONSIBILITY
In our active addiction, we were often irresponsible and
unaccountable. We often placed blame on others and none on
ourselves. Taking on responsibility at our home group is a good step
forward. Although you probably won't become treasurer at your first
business meeting, you might become the coffee person, showing up
early to make sure the coffee is ready for the early birds and
staying late to clean up the pots and cups. There are a variety of
positions that need to be filled at most groups: Chairperson,
Secretary, Group Service Representative (GSR), Greeter, Coffee
Maker, Chips and Literature Representative, Floor Sweeper and
others. All are very important. There is always something you can
do, no matter how long you have been sober. Being of service at your
home group is a great way to practice being a responsible member of
society.
The benefits of becoming involved in a home group are more than you
can probably imagine. It can be an important part of the process
that ultimately keeps us clean and sober. One of our original
members writes, "It occurred to me that when many of us walk through
the doors of Cocaine Anonymous for the first time, we do so without
hope, without faith, but with an ounce of courage. We listen to the
stories and experiences of others and develop hope. As a result of
coming back, and coming back, and coming back and working the Twelve
Steps, we acquire an abundance of faith." (Hope, Faith, & Courage
xxviii-xxix)
We encourage you to keep going to meetings until you find yourself a
home group - and no matter what, keep coming back.